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June 4, 2020
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Can I Get My Girlfriend Back Even If She is Dating Someone Else?

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Many times, guys don't realize how serious something is until the thing that they do not want to happen DOES. When it comes to a breakup, usually this means that your ex girlfriend is now dating someone else. So, the common question becomes, can I get her back even when she is dating someone else?

And to be honest with you, there is no one size fits all answer to this kind of a situation.

One thing that you want to be careful of is whether or not you want her back simply because you cannot have her now. For some reason, it's just the way that we are wired as humans, we always have a desire for things that are off limits. So, you want to get in touch with an honest answer of whether you would want her back if she wasn't with someone else.

If your answer is NO, that you would not want to be back with her if she was not dating someone else, then MOVE ON!

Assuming that this is not the case and that you still would want to get back with her, you have to get in touch with the selfless part of you and ask, is she happy with this new person? If that is the case, then you might want to just meet a new girl. However, if you truly believe that she is not happy, or that she could be happier with you, and you still want to give it a go, it is POSSIBLE to get her back. Make sure that you notice I said possible and not probable.

Of course, you can weight the odds in your favor just by following a few simple steps:

1. You have to come into contact with her somehow, but not in a way that makes it look like you are obsessive about her.

Don't call her on the phone and immediately say, Hey, I hear you are dating someone. She's going to immediately assume that you are going to try and talk bad about him and she will most likely cut the interaction short. And she will also be less likely to want to even talk to you again. Being the obsessive kind of ex-boyfriend is not cute at all to a woman, it's CREEPY. Don't be that guy.

2. Sound positive when the new guy comes up in conversation.

Again, trying to say bad things about him or trying to make him look bad is only going to work against you. It's going to make you seem jealous and probably make her become a little MORE fond of him. Be positive, and just move the conversation OFF of him in a subtle way.

3. Make yourself seem more desirable than the other guy.

Unless she has a rock on her finger, then she probably does have an open mind to some extent. We all do, men and women. So, if you make yourself appear to be more desirable than the new guy she is dating, who do you think she is going to think of? Who do you think that she is going to want to date?

4. Make yourself seem OFF limits.

One of the things that makes most guys fail in their attempts to get back with their ex girlfriend is that they are TOO available. They let her know too often that they are not dating someone else and that they want to get back together. There is something alluring and appealing when you make it seem like you are off limits to your ex-girlfriend. Women too fall for the desire to want what they cannot have and you can make your ex-girlfriend feel this way about YOU!

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